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Who cares about gay Republicans?

The best response to their Trump endorsement is to ignore them

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There’s entirely too much fuss about gay Republicans. They’re just Republicans after all. Being gay makes them no different from the rest of their kind. It never has; it never will. However much we invest in denouncing them, the net yield of our efforts will always be less than zero. They know what they’re doing, and no amount of outrage from the rest of us has ever changed that. We might just as well rail against the Republican coal miners of West Virginia.

The entire political philosophy of gay Republicans is simply “lefty gays are intolerant, and I will prove it by saying things tenuous and inflammatory until they ‘attack’ me.” Of course the current head of the Log Cabin Republicans’ D.C. chapter, Adam Savit, gleefully supports Trump’s anti-immigrant positions and denies the extent of his supporters’ racism. And of course the leaders of the national Log Cabin organization endorsed Trump for re-election. What else do we expect?

If you really need to hate them, just ignore them. Absent our outrage, they have no power to be seen, heard, or validated. Instead, take your anger toward gay Republicans and focus it somewhere it might actually do some good.

Right now, we’re lousy with a raft of well-meaning straight Democratic “allies” who hold office in places where it’s possible to pass legislation further advancing LGBTQ equality, but they won’t attempt it. We have several national LGBTQ organizations promising us progress, but they’re seldom accountable when they achieve nothing in parts of the country most desperate for it. We know closeted politicians, and not just the toe-tapping GOP types, who hurt us with their silence, indifference, or inaction on issues that matter; but we refuse to out them. Worst of all, we never question the very open LGBTQ politicians who raise money from the community, exploit our desire to “make history with their election,” and then sit in legislative sessions or executive offices with little to show for it but lovely excuses.

If it doesn’t piss you off that a lazy Democrat wins our support for being less horrendous than the nearest Republican, then you should consider what you want from politicians. “Better than a Republican” is a terribly low bar.

Perhaps it’s too emotionally charged to recall how often we’ve been abandoned by our “friends” and the members of our own community whom we put in office. Maybe it’s easier to forget the times they told us why we can’t have something – “not this session,” “leadership won’t back it,” “if we give you that, others will complain” – than to confront our own role in electing them. But whatever our motivations are, every time we fulminate at some gay Republican, we make it easier for a Democrat to repeat this process, to ignore us and disclaim any responsibility.

Unfortunately, we’re locked in a way of thinking that benchmarks everyone against the closeted Republican politicians who voted against our rights at the turn of the last century. In 2006, openly gay member of the U.S House of Representatives, Congressman Barney Frank (now retired), articulated a political axiom known as the “Frank Rule” in which he isolated hypocrisy as the cardinal sin of gay Republicans. In the age of Larry Craig and Ken Mehlman, Frank argued it was justified to out gay Republicans because “the right to privacy [about their sexual orientation] should not be a right to hypocrisy.”

That’s fine. But hypocrisy is a reasonable standard for judging all in politics, making any application of the Frank Rule too narrow to be useful. It conveniently excuses Democrats who vote for LGBTQ equality but do little else, and it fully exculpates gay Democrats, closeted or otherwise, who do absolutely no work whatsoever to advance LGBTQ equality. Their hypocrisy goes unmentioned even as openly gay Republicans send us into a frenzy when they exhibit all the standard hallmarks of a Republican.

Our “friends” don’t like to be called out for the ways they’ve slighted us, and they actually respond to a public shaming. So stop giving a damn about gay Republicans. The next time one pisses you off, ask a gay Democrat what they’re working on to make our lives better.

Brian Gaither (@briangaither) is a gay writer and activist living in Maryland.

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Country needs a new form of patriotism

Trump-Vance administration, supporters have left marginalized Americans even more scared

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In lieu of the right-wing takeover both in the government and the country as a whole, the current view of patriotism from marginalized communities is often seen as supportive of patriarchal, misogynistic, and anti-LGBTQ ideals. The patriot is often seen as someone who supports the idea that America is only one way and that way is one not so geared towards progress. Right now, there are plans in place for several marginalized people, whether they be queer or racial minorities, to perhaps abandon the country, or at the very least lose respect for it, given the whole passport debacle, because of how strong conservatives came in after the induction of the second Trump administration. The response is warranted. We are being told that who we are and what we stand for are not American.

I‘ve noticed that when people distance themselves from the idea of being American or a patriot, it allows these right-wing ideas to take over and distort the image of what being American means in a way that is unchallenged. It is manipulating the entire image of what it is like to be American, which is being presented as cisgender, straight, and white. Right now, transgender service men and women are having their right to serve this country stripped from them simply because of their gender identity. Their sacrifices are seen as wrong or even weak.

However, I feel like now is a time to bolster a new form of patriotism for those who are still here and cannot afford to leave. As WorldPride makes its way to Washington, D.C., I’ve taken a moment to reflect on what it is like to be both a queer and racial minority born and raised near the nation’s capital. I find that regardless of how much conservatism has emboldened right-wing supporters and clutched the federal government, I am very much proud to see the revolt and the pride that people have for who they are regardless of.

Living in a country founded on freedom and the right to self-actualization, that being proud of oneself, and fighting for the freedom to be oneself is innately American.

The intersectionality of being both queer and African American, paired with the historical knowledge of how both identities have been treated does in fact make it hard to be proud of the American title of ”patriot.” But the country and history of the country are not owned by the conservative body. Right now, they are scrambling and trying to control every facet to re-brand the image of what a patriot looks like to change both the history and future of America. 

With that being said and WorldPride merely days away, there now needs to be a call to maybe not reject patriotism, but reshape it into a form of patriotism that reflects the progress that marginalized communities wish to see. Marsha P. Johnson sparked a movement with her revolt at Stonewall, an act just as American as the shot heard around the world. Perseverance, courage and determination during this time is as American as it gets. Queer, trans, and other marginalized people are shining examples of what it means to be Americans. We give our time, money, and lives to make this country thrive. 

Though the past has been dark, stealing both land, people and ideologies from those deemed unfit to be seen as American, this is our country as much as it is theirs. The right feared the progress that was being made over the past decade and made their moves to halt it. Now is the time to counter those moves and show them what our patriotism looks like.

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Has the LGBTQ rights movement embraced disabled queers?

Disability rights activists took their inspiration from queer activists

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When I was a teenager, I rarely heard about LGBTQ Pride — and I heard even less about Disability Pride. In the church my father attended, LGBTQ people were spoken of as sinful, and disability in the culture in which I was raised was something to be hidden away in shame. I could never have imagined that one day, I would become an openly autistic transgender activist, working with disability and LGBTQ rights organizations across the world — from Ukraine and Russia to the U.S., the U.K., and Australia.

But I still remember the clenching emptiness I felt when my favorite stand-up comedian joked that gay people were “sick folks with proven hormonal problems.”

“We don’t celebrate illnesses,” he said. “What’s there to be proud of?”

The audience applauded. But to me, it felt cruel. Even though I was afraid to think too deeply about LGBTQ rights at the time, I had seen disabled children bullied and excluded. And I remember wishing there was a way for disabled people to celebrate their survival and their resilience.

Years later, I learned what Pride really meant. That LGBTQ people aren’t simply proud of who they are — they’re proud to still be here, to still be themselves, despite the hatred and violence they’ve faced. And when I learned more about Disability Pride, I realized it was rooted in the exact same principle.

Disability Pride Month is July. 

It originated in the United States in 1990 when the Americans with Disabilities Act was passed. The movement borrows directly from LGBTQ Pride — from the very word pride to the idea of a disability pride flag, created in 2019 by Ann Magill, a writer with cerebral palsy. Today, the flag is used not just at Disability Pride events, but also within queer spaces — even on the self-care app Finch, where it’s displayed alongside LGBTQ flags.

Like many movements that began in the U.S., Disability Pride has since gone global. It’s been officially celebrated in the U.K. since 2015, and I first heard about it in Russia during a queer community event.

“Disabled people have their own Stonewall,” a colleague once told me during his presentation. He was referring to the Capitol Crawl, a protest in 1990 when over 1,000 disabled Americans marched from the White House to the Capitol. Upon arriving, about 60 activists, including 8-year-old Jennifer Keelan-Chaffins, left their wheelchairs and mobility aids behind and crawled up the Capitol steps, hand over hand. This powerful act of civil disobedience exposed the brutal inaccessibility disabled people faced daily. By the end of the day, 104 participants were arrested.

That protest helped push the ADA through Congress — and it’s remembered as a landmark moment, much like Stonewall. Disability rights activists around the world have long seen LGBTQ Pride as an inspiration — and the influence is undeniable.

Even within the broader disability rights movement, smaller communities have formed their own pride traditions. Autistic Pride Day is on June 18, and I was the first person to promote it in Russia — again, inspired by American activists. It was local LGBTQ organizations that helped me organize those early Autistic Pride events.

This seemed like a logical collaboration, but, sadly, this support happened less often than it should.

Even though younger LGBTQ activists — especially those from Gen Z — are often extremely supportive toward disabled and neurodivergent people, large LGBTQ organizations still struggle to follow through. As someone who’s worked with both LGBTQ and disability communities across Ukraine, Russia, Israel, Europe, Australia, the U.K., and the U.S., I can say this honestly: I’ve never seen a fully disability-inclusive LGBTQ event or Pride.

LGBTQ Pride culture is overwhelmingly neurotypical and built by non-disabled people for non-disabled people. This is despite the fact that at least 16 percent of LGBTQ people are disabled — the same percentage as the general population. In fact, the real number is likely even higher, due to the intersection between queerness and autism, and because LGBT people experience higher rates of mental health challenges because of the minority stress.

Making Pride more accessible isn’t difficult. It just requires intention:

  • Choose routes and venues that are wheelchair accessible
  • Allow support animals
  • Create a quiet room for sensory regulation
  • Avoid epilepsy triggers in lighting and visuals
  • Provide clear, easy-read information about the event
  • Use image descriptions and communication badges

But above all, listen. Adopt the disability rights movement’s principle of “nothing about us without us.” Include disabled LGBTQ activists in planning, outreach, and leadership for Pride preparation. Not as a checkbox, but as core contributors to the event and the community. We deserve more than just being a token. 

Even during the Trump administration, the American LGBTQ movement has powerful influence across the globe. If U.S.-based Pride events commit to accessibility, they can help set a new worldwide standard. And that would be a powerful message — especially now when both LGBTQ and disability rights are under political attack in the U.S. and beyond. Accessible and inclusive Pride parades may be the first step to make. The LGBTQ and disability rights communities need to work together against bigotry and hate — especially because of the Pride history we share — and not let accessibility barriers divide us.

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WorldPride is here and LGBTQ Jews must be fully welcome

An opportunity to model what queer liberation should look like

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As someone who’s spent a career working to ensure LGBTQ+ people are represented in politics, welcomed in public life, and protected under law, I know how powerful visibility can be. I’ve also seen what happens when that visibility is denied — especially to those at the intersection of marginalized identities.

That’s why, as WorldPride arrives in Washington, D.C., I’m filled with both pride and a sense of deep responsibility.

WorldPride isn’t just a parade. It’s a global platform — a moment when the world’s eyes will be on our city. It’s an opportunity to model what queer liberation should look like: bold, inclusive, principled, and expansive.

But I’m also hearing, more and more, from LGBTQ Jews who aren’t sure they’ll be safe to show up.

Since Oct. 7, antisemitism has surged around the globe — including in progressive and queer spaces. We saw it last week when two Israeli embassy workers were killed in a shooting at the Capital Jewish Museum. Across the country, Jewish LGBTQ people are being asked to choose between parts of who they are. I’ve seen groups disinvited from Pride events for displaying a Jewish star. I’ve heard from friends who are now afraid to wear religious symbols in LGBTQ spaces. And I’ve witnessed silence from movement leaders when antisemitism appears — cloaked in politics, but no less dangerous.

As a gay Jewish man, I know how that erasure feels. And I know what it looks like to be told you’re welcome only if you agree to leave part of yourself at the door.

WorldPride in D.C. must not send that message.

This is our city. And this is our chance to lead. We can’t just be proud — we have to be accountable. We have to ensure that Pride is truly a space for all of us, including LGBTQ Jews who carry grief, identity, and history that may not always align neatly with dominant narratives.

That means taking action. It means working with groups like A Wider Bridge to make sure Jewish LGBTQ people are included at every level of planning. It means briefing security teams and marshals to protect—not police—those who show up with Jewish symbols. It means being clear that antisemitism, like all forms of hate, has no place at Pride.

It also means recognizing how deeply intertwined Jewish history is with queer liberation. From Harvey Milk, one of the first openly gay elected officials, to countless Jewish LGBTQ activists who’ve helped shape movements from Stonewall to marriage equality, Jewish LGBTQ individuals have long been integral to our progress. Erasing their Jewishness erases our history and undermines our future.

We must reject purity tests that ask queer Jews to disavow who they are in order to be accepted. Such demands not only isolate LGBTQ Jews but weaken the solidarity that has been foundational to our collective progress.

To the organizers of WorldPride: You have the power to set the tone for the world. Use it to uplift — not exclude. Bring in diverse Jewish voices, especially Mizrahi, Sephardi, trans, and queer Jews of color. Make space for their grief. Honor their joy. Ensure their safety. And publicly affirm their presence, making clear that visibility at Pride includes the visibility of Jewish symbols, experiences, and identities.

To my fellow LGBTQ leaders: We’ve long said our movement must be inclusive. That must include Jews. Period. Inclusivity isn’t conditional. It means standing unequivocally against antisemitism, even — and especially — when it’s difficult or uncomfortable.

And to LGBTQ Jews: Don’t sit this one out. I understand the hesitation, the exhaustion, and the fear. But this moment calls for courage, too. You belong in every rainbow-colored corner of this movement. Wear your stars. Carry your flags. Share your stories and reclaim your visibility. Show up as your whole self.

WorldPride is here. Let’s make it a beacon — not just of celebration, but of courage, complexity, and true community. Let’s show the world a Pride that doesn’t just speak of solidarity but embodies it fully, unequivocally, and joyfully for every LGBTQ person — including Jews.


Marty Rouse is a renowned D.C. LGBTQ activist. He served for decades at the Human Rights Campaign and the Victory Fund.

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